I used to think differently. I thought it was selfish to think of me before others, but I don't anymore. True love can only be given, if we have first given it to our selves!
Once I would run myself ragged helping others, and be at their beck and call. But when I was forced to stop because my own well being was compromised, I had an epiphany! I took time out for me, to recover my health and sanity ... it was then that I found the way of balance and finally contentment.
I love helping people, but now I do it with consideration for myself, and in a way that suits my talents, and personality. After all - any support given needs to be in the best interest of both parties ... the "giver" and the "receiver" ...
We are not being authentic, if we keep doing for others - what we really don't want to do ... and complain about it! We have to enjoy what we do, otherwise it is false! And it is not helpful to do for another, what they can do for themselves. By doing more than we should wears us down, and creates co-dependency.
We all have gifts to give ... let us deliver them in the best way ... so that everyone wins ... but remember to give the first gift to ... you ...
"Be faithful to what exists within your self." -------- Andre Gide
Jo. St. Claire
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